A new year is upon us. And even the most jaded of us will give in to the excitement of a new beginning and make a resolution or two. If your NYE celebration has been …er… ‘traditional’, you’ll usually vow to give up drinking (a resolve that only lasts till the memories of the hangover remain). In fact, most such vows made on impulse, find themselves broken before February ends. Usually, this happens because they are made in an effort to fix a symptom in your life rather than the underlying malaise.
Resolutions that are deeply felt and earnestly made are obviously more likely to be kept. However, if the desire for change is all that motivates your vows then perhaps you should dig a little deeper before you give up carbs altogether or dump your boyfriend of 3 years.
These are a few resolutions that you can break without any accompanying guilt.
“I will lose weight.”
You don’t need to lose weight. Really. Even if you weigh 200 pounds. What you do need is to get fitter and healthier. And if in the quest for fitness you also lose weight, that’s a bonus. Diets of the weight-loss variety tend to focus on banning certain foods. And while that may work in the short term, the weight tends to leap back on as soon as you return to your normal diet. So, instead of counting the pounds, count the minutes spent exercising (running/walking/kickboxing, whatever gets you going). And instead of focusing on NOT eating fats, focus on eating more vegetables and fruits. Tip: Eat vegetables and whole grains as the first course of every meal, to leave less room for fatty food later.
“I will take a foreign holiday.”
Yes, all those Instagram pictures of people in awesome places are inspiring. But your bank balance may not agree with this resolution. Instead of being heartbroken by this, make yourself happy by taking some mini vacations, while you plan and save for the big one. Cheap and chirpy weekend getaways can provide just as much fodder for your Insta feed. And if even a getaway seems far-fetched, a day spent seeing your own city through the eyes of a tourist can be, well, eye-opening.
“I will get a new job.”
Before you click ‘Apply’ on LinkedIn, remind yourself that new isn’t always better. It may be less monotonous and have none of the problems of your current job, but it will have its own. No job is perfect. So, evaluate your situation at your current workplace honestly: do you have a future there? Is it working for your career? Are there new opportunities and responsibilities you can take up that will fix the monotony issue? Are the problems solvable? A lot of the times they are, especially if you fix your part in the problem. (You will almost always have a part). Don’t go job-hunting till you have answers to these questions. Chances are that you won’t need to.
“I’ll get a brand new wardrobe.”
Stop before you press “Buy” on your shopping cart! While the desire for a new look is understandable, there may be no need to consign ALL your existing clothes to a landfill. New clothes may be exciting but they won’t make much of a difference if you wear them the same way you wore your old ones. Try out different styles (using Pinterest as a guide, if needed) before choosing your new look for the year. Now relook at your existing clothes. A lot of them can probably be repurposed. You’d be amazed at how wearing it differently can make the same old sundress look completely fresh.
If you’ve already made these popular resolutions, treat this as your free pass to break them, and seek more personal and likely-to-be kept resolutions. You won’t regret it!
By Sweta Vinod