It is not easy having to make a life-changing decision, it’s also harder when you don’t even plan it. It’s the 21st century and by now everywhere you go you’ll hear about safe sex. There are so many methods out there to prevent any event that you might not be able to deal with at this time of your life. From Pills to condoms and much more in between yet this topic is pretty much alive and kicking. It’s even more important now with the many laws and regulations that women are fighting to change in different countries.
In simple terms, unsafe sex leads to pregnancy.
Many people might want to argue with that but it’s safe to say there is no room for arguments. It’s a fact. Even if you go on for years without slipping, at one point it’ll happen so why not be safe than sorry. However, there is also no room for judgment here. Life is a space where you make mistakes and learn from them.
Relax! Take a deep breath
If you find out you’re pregnant, you should try and remain calm while figuring out your options. You need to know all the information about pregnancies, bodies and even birth. The best way to do that would be to schedule an appointment with your gynaecologist. That way you can also check if you are 100% pregnant since home tests might be wrong sometimes. Ask your doctor about everything that concerns you and your health. Most importantly, Don’t be afraid to ask about the ways to terminate your pregnancy or even keep it. Remember it’s best not to rush into any decision, especially with all the mental health risks involved.
Have a conversation
It’s also advisable to talk to your partner because he is involved in this as much as you are and might have a different opinion. In order for you not to hurt anyone in the process, a long talk about your views and reasons is needed for a healthier outcome. Remember, it’s your body and mental state so your opinion matters most but that doesn’t mean we should disregard your partner’s opinion. Make sure he understands where you’re coming from. In fact, it would be even better if you both go to the doctor to discuss every option.
NO Google Please!
Make sure you stay off the internet when you are making this decision. Google is not your doctor and people offering free advice on there don’t know you or your body in person. There is so many exaggerated and misleading information that will overwhelm you instead of putting you at ease. This goes not just for pregnancies but for every other medical condition out there. I can’t remember how many times I thought I had cancer because I coughed and googled it. So make sure you follow a professional’s advice rather than an anonymous.
In case you decide you don’t want to have a child right now you can opt for abortion. This topic is considered taboo in many societies and many countries don’t even have that option available. but we’re here to tell you it’s better to be educated and learn what’s best for you. If you can get an abortion where you are in the world, your doctor should run some tests first to make sure you are healthy. He or she might request an ultrasound to check how long you’ve been pregnant. This is important considering abortion can’t be done if you surpass the time given, unless for extreme reasons. For example, in the UK you can have an abortion up to 24 weeks. There are two types of abortion either by pill or surgical and depending on your circumstances your doctor should be able to tell what the best way is for you.
The other option you have is adoption. If you don’t want to go through abortion for whatever reason you might have. You can choose to give the baby up to another family who can take care of it. Although this is another subject that’s frowned upon, it is also encouraged in some societies. There is no reason to feel shame or guilt about adoption considering how much it has helped families before who couldn’t conceive and provided a better life for children.
When it’s your body, it’s your choice. When you keep that in mind you’ll know you don’t have to be so scared. However, it’s essential to protect yourself first so something like this won’t happen. If you are unsure about what birth control method to use, ask a gynaecologist, family doctor or a health clinic. If you can’t, then remember to use a condom always. This way you can practice safe sex without having to make any life-changing decisions.
– Marah Rayan